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hormones - andrea23 - 25-06-2014
My physiologist has approached the idea of taking hormones to bring me to a more neutral gender she believes if i can get to a more neutral body i may feel better about myself and the high anxiety i am suffering may ease up a bit. My wife is worried that i will want to go all the way and fully transition however she seems willing for me to try for now. She is still thinking of leaving me as she said she does not want to hold me back. She is still unable to accept what is going on and does not want to see me dress as female. Still just taking one day at a time and hoping she will come around in time if the hormones work and balance my feelings out she may realize that this is a good thing.
Keeping fingers crossed.
Ps I just wish there was a support group near me where i could meet like minded people and talk face to face with about all that is going on with me as I find if i talk too much about it to my wife she shuts down and we have a couple of really bad days.
RE: hormones - GoneGirl - 25-06-2014
Andrea,
A support group can be of value certainly. I've found that interacting with other TGs is helpful in putting things into proper perspective. The goal should be to find a way to achieve peace of mind with the least amount of collateral damage. Others can often help you see possibilities that you haven't considered. I understand that a support group doesn't exist in your locale. That's a shame.
This forum is also a source of support. If you're reluctant to be too 'public' is discussing issues, realize that there are lots of private exchanges among members that play a big part in finding needed support and comfort. It only takes the courage to reach out to someone who you believe can relate to your particular circumstances.
When I hear accounts of relationship problems arising from TG issues, I realize how differently much of the world views this medical condition. If one announced that he's been diagnosed with cancer, diabetes, or Alzheimer's, I doubt that many spouses would respond, "Well, if you insist on seeking treatment for your problem, I'm not sure our marriage can continue." Why is it so prevalent with trans gender identity? It doesn't have to be that way.
It's terribly important for a spouse to understand the nature of what you have been coping with as a TG. She needs to understand that gender identity is inborn, not forced on you, and not a lifestyle choice. She needs to understand that the dysphoria only intensifies with the passage of time. She needs to understand that there is no cure, only treatment to reduce the GD.
I strongly recommend that you read a book by Jennifer Boylan entitled She's Not There. It's the true story about a straight man who finally comes out to his wife about his long-suppressed transgender identity, and the way they each learn to deal with the crisis and stay together in a loving relationship. I'm betting that you will relate to their struggles as you are navigating a similar path in your own relationship.
Clara
RE: hormones - undecided - 25-06-2014
(25-06-2014, 01:40 PM)andrea23 Wrote: My physiologist has approached the idea of taking hormones to bring me to a more neutral gender she believes if i can get to a more neutral body i may feel better about myself and the high anxiety i am suffering may ease up a bit. My wife is worried that i will want to go all the way and fully transition however she seems willing for me to try for now. She is still thinking of leaving me as she said she does not want to hold me back. She is still unable to accept what is going on and does not want to see me dress as female. Still just taking one day at a time and hoping she will come around in time if the hormones work and balance my feelings out she may realize that this is a good thing.
Keeping fingers crossed.
Ps I just wish there was a support group near me where i could meet like minded people and talk face to face with about all that is going on with me as I find if i talk too much about it to my wife she shuts down and we have a couple of really bad days.
I`m still waiting to see my physiologist, but it sounds like your wife and mine are on the same play book, unfortunately. It scares the heck out of me to be honest, Sigh !!
RE: hormones - AnnieBL - 25-06-2014
(25-06-2014, 01:40 PM)andrea23 Wrote: Ps I just wish there was a support group near me where i could meet like minded people and talk face to face with about all that is going on with me as I find if i talk too much about it to my wife she shuts down and we have a couple of really bad days.
I had a problem for a time that whenever I raised the subject with my wife, she would slide sideways away from it, but I was able eventually to break through this and we are now talking seriously although we still have issues I am hoping we can resolve. I have sent you a PM.
Hugs