27-11-2011, 01:35 PM
I received a mail notification that I had received some PMs here and I came back to get them and I find WW3 in full swing.
Let me lay a few misconceptions to rest:
1. Chrissie has NEVER encouraged me to transition. Never once. I came here thinking I wanted to be a man with boobs but PM changed that for me. PM - not Chrissie.
2. If any of you have ever interacted with the TS community then you would know that a TS will never encourage another person to transition. They will talk to you about it if you ask and they usually discourage you and they always tell you to get therapy. When one of you said that one of my postings encouraged her to start PM I was bemused at the time, but now it worries me. I feel a dreadful sense of responsibility that I could be sending anyone else down the path I hurtling down.
3. Although Bryony and I discussed much in the PMs and I was quite open with her, my point was to emphasize that, for some of us, PM totally changes your mindset. For most this does not seem to happen but for some of us it does and when it does it can be devastating. PM can take away your choices no matter how dearly you hold them. This has happened to me. Bryony referred to me as a 'victim' in one post - and I am. I am a victim of PM and oestrogen.
4. I would like to ask for my privacy to be respected. Details disclosed in private messages are meant to be private between the sender and the receiver. I would like those details to remain private and not be posted on open forums. I am not accusing anyone of anything, I am merely making a request.
5. The main reason I have left is because this is a forum for men who want boobs and not a TS forum. Given the recent postings I feel I was right to leave. Recent postings here have shown me how little I understand some of you and what drives and motivates you. The fault is mine, not yours but I stand on the far side of a divide from you, one that I cannot cross back over.
6. A comment was posted about my relations with my wife. One of the reasons I need to get professional medical help is for counselling so that I can resolve these problems. They will not go away nor is this forum the place to discuss them. I need more help than anyone here can give me.
Now I cannot stop you all discussing me in my absence, but please understand that there is more going on in the background to my life than I have disclosed either here on in any private messages. The issues are serious and are not trivial. They will cause everyone around me much heartbreak and a resolution needs to be found, but there are no simple answers. This process is going to take time and I need to devote my full effort to it.
I have said what I want to say and I am done now. Please calm down and return this forum back to the peaceful, helpful place it once was.
With love to all of you
Beverley
x x
Let me lay a few misconceptions to rest:
1. Chrissie has NEVER encouraged me to transition. Never once. I came here thinking I wanted to be a man with boobs but PM changed that for me. PM - not Chrissie.
2. If any of you have ever interacted with the TS community then you would know that a TS will never encourage another person to transition. They will talk to you about it if you ask and they usually discourage you and they always tell you to get therapy. When one of you said that one of my postings encouraged her to start PM I was bemused at the time, but now it worries me. I feel a dreadful sense of responsibility that I could be sending anyone else down the path I hurtling down.
3. Although Bryony and I discussed much in the PMs and I was quite open with her, my point was to emphasize that, for some of us, PM totally changes your mindset. For most this does not seem to happen but for some of us it does and when it does it can be devastating. PM can take away your choices no matter how dearly you hold them. This has happened to me. Bryony referred to me as a 'victim' in one post - and I am. I am a victim of PM and oestrogen.
4. I would like to ask for my privacy to be respected. Details disclosed in private messages are meant to be private between the sender and the receiver. I would like those details to remain private and not be posted on open forums. I am not accusing anyone of anything, I am merely making a request.
5. The main reason I have left is because this is a forum for men who want boobs and not a TS forum. Given the recent postings I feel I was right to leave. Recent postings here have shown me how little I understand some of you and what drives and motivates you. The fault is mine, not yours but I stand on the far side of a divide from you, one that I cannot cross back over.
6. A comment was posted about my relations with my wife. One of the reasons I need to get professional medical help is for counselling so that I can resolve these problems. They will not go away nor is this forum the place to discuss them. I need more help than anyone here can give me.
Now I cannot stop you all discussing me in my absence, but please understand that there is more going on in the background to my life than I have disclosed either here on in any private messages. The issues are serious and are not trivial. They will cause everyone around me much heartbreak and a resolution needs to be found, but there are no simple answers. This process is going to take time and I need to devote my full effort to it.
I have said what I want to say and I am done now. Please calm down and return this forum back to the peaceful, helpful place it once was.
With love to all of you
Beverley
x x