[MonikaT]

Doodlebug,

To a lesser degree, I do agree with you, and as the quality of the posts has declined so has my participation. I don't take quite as strong offense at the sexual/borderline pornographic posts because I probably don't try to read them. There are certain posters whose topics generally contribute nothing to my life so I don't read their posts. I also tend to avoid the posts of folks who feel the need to create a new top post every few minutes. As others have mentioned, we had a period of time when there was a lot of focus on nipple orgasm. I eventually learned to avoid those as well, and I avoid any posts from the person who seems to be the leader on that particular obsession.

I'm in agreement with Sfem, JustEmily, and the others who do not post very often. I keep waiting for things to change, but I am growing impatient and feel as though it may be a long wait. Then again, I also grow tired of the young ones who come here vacillating because they still live at home with the 'rents, ask for advice, then ignore it, say they're definitely going to use this other program that everyone has advised against, then come back and ask what people know about some other really expensive product that nobody has heard of, but the ingredients seem inferior and over-priced, etc., etc., ad infinitum.

There are several folks who seem to have left this forum or even left the site, and I miss their contributions even if some of them were like broken records harping about the same things. I do miss the things you miss and which seem to be lacking at this time. Oddly, the poorly-written, frequently-misspelled, badly-reasoned posts tend to come from many of the contributors whose posts tend to be of a more prurient nature.

I will definitely miss the quality of your posts, but I understand your desire to leave. Good luck in your journey.

[charrr]

Too put it simply, I don't know what the heck happened to this forum, either! I mean, I guess I do... a little... and it is pitiable! Haha. Usually I try to be a little more PC-like and subtle. It's just that my finger is tired of being tensed on the mouse emergency close button as I open a page, lately- like I am waiting to be nipped at. I think some of us might even have started to hope we are not missing out because we are afraid to open pages. I think a lot of us signed up for something other than that. Tsk, tsk.
Sending good vibes to the forum and to all o y'all. The energy here could use a smidgen hint of classying up. Good Luck to us all!

[timarie]

I completely understand what you are saying. I was a little irked at that photo myself. It is not really a photo of tasteful breasts. It is pretty distasteful actually, quite like the stuff that men look at for kicks when no one is looking, not a "wow look at how aesthetically beautiful" kind of thing. So Jennlove, I think when we post pictures, anything that falls under hot, sexy, beautiful is probably what we all expect on this forum; NOT a tasteless, classless, porno-grade photo. And of course we are talking about the same photo still.

I personally find it strange that people are seemingly using this forum more and more as a social-networking page. As someone mentioned earlier, posting just for the sake of posting it seems without anything really helpful to post. I actually have been irritated by this a little myself. I had a post or two like that posted to my threads and I commented lightly to be polite, but I DO NOT like random tangents. That is for facebook, people. This is a forum, for exchanging information and help, and talking about related topics. Favorite music genres? Really, I'll just be skimming. I subscribed to so many threads but a handful were ruined in my opinion because of HUGE tangents. I mean, Missed Miss means no harm and it seems he just is a little "off", so I just try my best to ignore. But it is hard, when the posts are everywhere! So, I am not mad at him. It is just something that we need to curb our patience to deal with, is all. Not everything can be controlled in this world... although I do agree with you on wishing it away.

[Jenniferlove]

I completely understand what you are saying. I was a little irked at that photo myself. It is not really a photo of tasteful breasts. It is pretty distasteful actually, quite like the stuff that men look at for kicks when no one is looking, not a "wow look at how aesthetically beautiful" kind of thing. So Jennlove, I think when we post pictures, anything that falls under hot, sexy, beautiful is probably what we all expect on this forum; NOT a tasteless, classless, porno-grade photo. And of course we are talking about the same photo still.

I personally find it strange that people are seemingly using this forum more and more as a social-networking page. As someone mentioned earlier, posting just for the sake of posting it seems without anything really helpful to post. I actually have been irritated by this a little myself. I had a post or two like that posted to my threads and I commented lightly to be polite, but I DO NOT like random tangents. That is for facebook, people. This is a forum, for exchanging information and help, and talking about related topics. Favorite music genres? Really, I'll just be skimming. I subscribed to so many threads but a handful were ruined in my opinion because of HUGE tangents. I mean, Missed Miss means no harm and it seems he just is a little "off", so I just try my best to ignore. But it is hard, when the posts are everywhere! So, I am not mad at him. It is just something that we need to curb our patience to deal with, is all. Not everything can be controlled in this world... although I do agree with you on wishing it away.

I am a little confused. Is it wrong for us to make connections with other people on here? If we find we have things in common outside of breast growth and would perhaps like to delve deeper in said topics on our own thread, is that bad? I would have to say no.

I will speak for myself on this one, but my main thread is to document my own personal breast growth. If things go slightly off topic so be it. It is my thread after all and I do enjoy making personal connections with people. Why am I writing this? Because I brought up music genres to another poster in my thread. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If that annoys people, so be it.

[heavinlycups]

I have never posted on here before but have been surfing for quite some time. I have been on my own journey for just over a year and feel I am part of the problem. I have been inspired and encouraged by the threads and posts but have not contributed. So for that I can completely see your point as threads do get inundated with precevable nonsense. I want you to know there are those of us who haven't found our voice yet but appreciate the sounds of others. Good luck on your life jouney and we'll be here when you return and I hope these forums continue .

[PattiJT]

Jenniferlove,

Hi. I agree. Your thread is your thread. Do as you wish with it. My only comment would be to remember the spirit and purpose of this website. I understand why someone would not prefer to carry a friend from Breast Nexus on over to Facebook. I know I wouldn't, but then, I dropped out of Facebook a long time ago. I lost a good computer thanks to bugs being passed around there. Besides it being a generally useless place.
If a friend you made here is someone you want to talk with regularly, why not use the messaging service here? Or the e-mail? If that bothers you, set up a separate e-mail account just for this purpose, and if someone turns out to be not so trustworthy, you can just delete the e-mail account.

One last thing. Every profile here has a place for a Bio. It's a good place to put things like musical interests, hobbies, other likes, and even dislikes. Sadly, few people use it, and even fewer people look at it to see who they're talking or replying to.


For the rest of the viewership,
Let's not condemn Doodlebug for an opinion offered on one thread. I tend to think he just became frustrated with the general behavior going on here in the biological males forum. I have been disgusted as well. A lot of useless tripe. I hope it doesn't spread to the other forums in here. And I hope the new members and prospective new members don't get the impression that this is the "normal" conduct here. Use your common sense, and be curious but courteous. there can be no self-policing if there is no standard of decency. We're all quite anonymous on this big old internet, but we can still make asses out of ourselves as sure as we do it in real life, and people here will call you on it faster than they would to your face. There's a lot to be gained and learned here if we treat each other with a modicum of respect. OK? Patti

[froger]

http://www.breastnexus.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=5

I don't have a problem with people talking about whatever they want here in Breast Nexus. It's just where its talked about. The above link is to the "Any Other Subject" forum here. That's the place to talk music genres and what not. If you find you're derailing a thread, take a minute to make a new one and direct people there. That's an easy way to improve quality here and have quanity there.

[Jenniferlove]

http://www.breastnexus.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=5

I don't have a problem with people talking about whatever they want here in Breast Nexus. It's just where its talked about. The above link is to the "Any Other Subject" forum here. That's the place to talk music genres and what not. If you find you're derailing a thread, take a minute to make a new one and direct people there. That's an easy way to improve quality here and have quanity there.

Okay, 95% of my own thread is about boobs. Boobs, boobs, boobs. Maybe 5% (if that) goes off topic, haha. There is no way I will let a comment or so dictate whether or not to take it to a whole new thread. Let's be real.

[MissC]

I personally find it strange that people are seemingly using this forum more and more as a social-networking page. As someone mentioned earlier, posting just for the sake of posting it seems without anything really helpful to post.

That's not a problem with only this site; it's a problem with the internet.

Thanks to Twitter, Facebook, and others of their type, it's become trivially easy for idiots to spout nonsense to an audience the size of Earth. I'll probably have to follow this with "get off my lawn!" but the available content and quality of conversation were much better back in the days when you had to know some HTML and how to run an Apache web server if you wanted to be heard. Essentially, there were higher barriers to entry, which ensured that more literate and intelligent people made up more of the people who cleared those hurdles.

But when a 3-year-old can post a comment on Facebook, that's exactly where the intellectual level of the internet will go: to the lowest common denominator.

So, while I understand Doodlebug's lament, I'm afraid the horses are gone and it's too late to shut the barn door. The idiots outnumber the thoughtful, just as they always have, and they're not leaving the internet as long as big companies can sell them cheap media consumption devices with which a couple of finger pokes forever infects the world's data with stupidity.

[Marina Kits]

Well…! I guess we’re back on a serious topic then aren’t we? I sure didn’t expect to set off a, “we versus them” debate. Perhaps anyway, now that some feelings have been aired, we will all (including myself …especially including myself) have a newfound appreciation for each other. I will admit, I had come to think of this place as a gender identity forum with an secondary emphasis on NBE – my mistake, but hopefully those who think of this site as a “tits, boobs or breasts” only forum will also understand that there are those of us here who would greatly appreciate keeping things PG or perhaps PG-13. Yes, I think we can all get along if respect each others threads and are sensitive to each other (which I was not – sorry, I just came to the end of my rope).

My original post was not a farewell but rather an explanation as to why I wouldn’t be participating as much as I have in the past. I felt like I owed those of you who I appreciate and call my friends, an explanation for my greatly reduced presence because, I often wonder what happened to so many who stopped contributing here, or frequenting this site altogether, even in the short time I’ve been a member. I still plan on checking the forum once or twice a week but have decided to use much of the time I previously spent here, reading some deserving books that are long overdue for reading. I wish you ALL the best and hope to see some stimulating conversations soon from the GID / NBE camp.