12-02-2014, 02:31 PM
Thanks, Lisa. You are such a good friend, and I love you to death.
You hit the nail right on the head with your appraisal of the two of us. And I am not unaware of any of that (especially about Sammie needing to communicat...tee hee...how do you know me so well?). At the moment, and clearly, for just the moment, honey, my nerves are happy just for a temporary return to an appearance of normality. But I am not by any means fooling myself that this is all over, honest. But on the plus side, she is behaving in ways that I know from past experience indicate she is still my friend, and has no intention of walking out, at least for now. We are still sleeping in the same bed, and she still snuggles against me comfortably at night. I am taking that as a very good sign.
I know the elephant cannot be ignored for long, and I realize that if she does not broach the topic I will need to do so again eventually. But for now I do not want to rock the boat or force the issue in any way. This is a big enough shock and I am sure she needs a little time to process it. In the meantime, I have begun looking for a good tg friendly counselor or therapist, for myself, so as to be proactive in this, but also so that I may locate some kind of support for her if and when she is willing and able to accept that assistance.
But, at least for just right now, and while I am well aware there will undoubtedly be rough waters ahead of some kind, I am cautiously optimistic. She is my best friend. I am hoping that remains the case.
But, again, sis, thanks for holding my hand. Your concern has me crying a little this morning...
Hugs
You hit the nail right on the head with your appraisal of the two of us. And I am not unaware of any of that (especially about Sammie needing to communicat...tee hee...how do you know me so well?). At the moment, and clearly, for just the moment, honey, my nerves are happy just for a temporary return to an appearance of normality. But I am not by any means fooling myself that this is all over, honest. But on the plus side, she is behaving in ways that I know from past experience indicate she is still my friend, and has no intention of walking out, at least for now. We are still sleeping in the same bed, and she still snuggles against me comfortably at night. I am taking that as a very good sign.
I know the elephant cannot be ignored for long, and I realize that if she does not broach the topic I will need to do so again eventually. But for now I do not want to rock the boat or force the issue in any way. This is a big enough shock and I am sure she needs a little time to process it. In the meantime, I have begun looking for a good tg friendly counselor or therapist, for myself, so as to be proactive in this, but also so that I may locate some kind of support for her if and when she is willing and able to accept that assistance.
But, at least for just right now, and while I am well aware there will undoubtedly be rough waters ahead of some kind, I am cautiously optimistic. She is my best friend. I am hoping that remains the case.
But, again, sis, thanks for holding my hand. Your concern has me crying a little this morning...
Hugs