[Heather-H]

is pierced ears that big of a deal? i have had mine pierced since i was 10, 28 now, growing up for me it was just fashion for men to have diamond studded earrings in st louis here. Being a hip hop artist really helped me excuse it when i began developing a feminine side

You're right, it's not a big deal in some circles, hip hop artists included. But, if you've lived your entire life emulating the traditional masculine model, leaving no doubt in anyone's mind except your own, that you ARE a man, and then suddenly turn up displaying a pair of earrings, polished nails, shaven legs, not to mention a blossoming bosom, I'm sure it's going to set off all kinds of alarms in the minds of those closest to you. Annie recently described her wife's reaction to his wanting to crossdress as being so out of character for him. Ahh, the masks we wear to protect the soul within.

Clara

Well said Clara, I was going comment in much the same vane last night but due to someone visiting I had to leave it.
Some employers here in the UK are not keen on employing men with earrings and may secretly reject your application. I know this is prejudice but it goes on, maybe to a lesser degree nowadays.

For me having pierced ears is a positive step on my Fem road, for young ones it's no great shakes.

Clara, I hope you succeed soon, I haven't formulated my approach yet with my other. Half. The last time I did she bought me clip-ons to appease my desire.

Heather X