[AnnieBL]

One of my beliefs is that you can only experience love to the extent that you have suffered pain. I think it is the same thing.
Everytime I experience some emotional loss I try to console myself with the knowledge that it increases my ability to feel love and compassion. I guess it sounds silly. But it helps me.

That's one of the problems I have with the concept of heaven. If it's all good, how incredibly bland it must be.