20-02-2015, 11:41 PM
Hi Annie,
I think the SO acceptance factor has a lot to do with the place that the relationship holds in your mate's life. I think many wives see their marriages as a reflection of themselves and how it affects their place in society. Anything that fundamentally changes how their marriage is perceived to the outside world is going to be viewed with much concern.
Other wives see their marriages as primarily a manifestation of the mutual love and devotion they share with their husband. Gender transition may or may not change the nature of that relationship. Clearly, the sexual side of the relationship is put at risk, but where that doesn't play an important part in the union, it's possible for the relationship to survive, and even thrive.
I put my marriage in this latter group. After 33 years of marriage and both of us getting up in age, physical attractiveness is no longer the glue that holds our marriage together. It's the deeper sense of a shared existence, trust, and love that is most significant in maintaining the bond. As such, my gender transition has not threatened to tear us apart. If anything, I'd say it has strengthened those bonds.
Clara
I think the SO acceptance factor has a lot to do with the place that the relationship holds in your mate's life. I think many wives see their marriages as a reflection of themselves and how it affects their place in society. Anything that fundamentally changes how their marriage is perceived to the outside world is going to be viewed with much concern.
Other wives see their marriages as primarily a manifestation of the mutual love and devotion they share with their husband. Gender transition may or may not change the nature of that relationship. Clearly, the sexual side of the relationship is put at risk, but where that doesn't play an important part in the union, it's possible for the relationship to survive, and even thrive.
I put my marriage in this latter group. After 33 years of marriage and both of us getting up in age, physical attractiveness is no longer the glue that holds our marriage together. It's the deeper sense of a shared existence, trust, and love that is most significant in maintaining the bond. As such, my gender transition has not threatened to tear us apart. If anything, I'd say it has strengthened those bonds.
Clara