02-01-2015, 06:59 PM
That's interesting, Eva, about fitting in with women as another woman. I think it's less of a problem for me because I have always gravitated to the women in any kind of social gathering. It was being a man among men that was always a problem for me in that I generally felt unsure of my masculinity. Of course, now I know why....lol.
It's very strange how powerful that preference for women's company is for me. In a group of transwomen, I'm fine. In a group of male identified CDs I'm fine, but only if I've only seen them in their female presentation and I assume their feminine personality is real. Many CDs have no hesitation about presenting as male in certain situations, but for me it changes my perception of the person to that of a man in a dress, not a woman. I respect their special place on the gender spectrum, but I can't identify with it, and it affects the way I interact with them, if I interact all.
For example, if I was still working now, as a transwoman, I would have lunch with the GGs (if they would have me), not the guys. No question about it.
Clara
It's very strange how powerful that preference for women's company is for me. In a group of transwomen, I'm fine. In a group of male identified CDs I'm fine, but only if I've only seen them in their female presentation and I assume their feminine personality is real. Many CDs have no hesitation about presenting as male in certain situations, but for me it changes my perception of the person to that of a man in a dress, not a woman. I respect their special place on the gender spectrum, but I can't identify with it, and it affects the way I interact with them, if I interact all.
For example, if I was still working now, as a transwoman, I would have lunch with the GGs (if they would have me), not the guys. No question about it.
Clara