[EvaMarie]

As you often state, Eva, you are not a very patient person. But, patience is what you need right now. It takes a year or more to fully heal. That's something you have to expect and accept. The swelling will recede in much less time, though, and until all the swelling is gone, you shouldn't make any judgments about how you are going to look. I'm sure you will be very happy with the results. It's not uncommon, however, to have to go back for some adjustments. That's especially true when you have so much done at once. It's always best to give your soft tissues time to adjust to the new shape of your bones before altering them.

Mandible and chin reshaping is the most intrusive and painful of all FFS procedures. I was advised to not undertake either given how little improvement it would make in my appearance. Reading your accounts of the swelling and pain involved, I think I've made the right decision.

I'm very appreciative of your keeping me in the loop on your experiences. It helps me to know about the difficulties that I may face in recovery. I know that I should expect many of the same feelings as you. My FFS will take place in just a month. I'm feeling calm about it, but at the same time excited, and feeling good about my choice of surgeons.

I remember when you first came to BN as LittleMissS, I was in awe of how courageously you set out to transition to female. I followed your progress everyday and began to see the possibilities for myself. You literally showed me the pathway to becoming my true self. Now, I'm barely a month behind you. I really don't think I could have progressed so far, so fast, without the benefit of your example. All I can say to you is THANK YOU. We both have a long way to go still, and I wish you all the best on the road ahead.

Love and hugs,

Clara

Hey Clara, Thanks Sis Thinking about feeling this messed up for a year or more is pretty depressing I know Im only 10 days post op and thats nothing really when talking about recovery from such a highly invasive surgery... I also know it should get a lot better over the next month but still it REALLY sucks Yes the jaw and chin work is the worst, it fucking brutal...

I was also very calm going into this and maybe a little too indifferent to just what I was getting into!!! As far as revisions go I can see there's a chance I might need to tweak a couple of things... I know I need to be patient and realize I need to wait at least 6 months before id even be able to consider doing any revisions...

Yes your lucky your not gonna do the jaw and chin, the rest isnt pleasant but its not as bad... Your gonna a be fine but Im glad I can show you it might no be easy or pleasant....

As far as my transition goes I knew I was in it for good by the time I took my first dose of PM and signed up here... Theres simply no other alternative for me... Id rather be dead than pretend to be a man again As impatient as I am Im sometimes jolted into appreciation of just how far Ive come in such a short time It wasnt long ago I was just a miserable dude dreaming of all this and I had no way of knowing at the time how it would all turn out.... As I move along though the stakes get higher and higher with these surgerys.... As much as I want the next one with Brassard its pretty hard to even think about even more self inflicted trauma and pain right now!!!

Thanks for such kind words, you've always been a sweetheart and I do even appreciate your good natured nagging You've come a long way too Sis and I wish you all the best in the future as the steps get bigger and harder to do... Ill be rooting for ya and a good result that hopefully makes you feel better about yourself and turns back the clock for you

As Ive said before transition aint for sissys thats for sure!!! Thanks again and you did make me feel better with your encouragement....