[Differoh]

Hey elaine! How are you today? I do not see your post as critical or judging, just honesty. And you are correct, the discussions have been pretty much about me. But that's partly due to every girlfriend I have had, I have explored my fem side in secret due to fear. This time around, we have been together for under 2 months and I told her all about my tendencies, fantasies, etc. Yesterday she asked if there was anything else she needs to know about me and I told her I would give up everything I am bargaining for right now with you (she has approved me to wear panties, bras, camis, womens jeans...selective few of course ones that are passable for men, and female tops that can pass slightly as unisex.) I have won a huge battle already and I feel adding to it is very selfish and such but I felt compelled to lay it out so its aware. She knows fully how much having breasts to me would mean to me. She has said she is against it right now, but give her time to marinate and adjust to the other stuff i want like the clothing and nails, and she would never stop me from doing what I wish would make me happy in my body but does feel it is changing what God gave you (we are pretty religious people and i guess its a reason why i have felt guilty even dabbling in this a lot) but I am who He has made me to be and I can't change my desires. And does feel a man with breasts isn't sexy but feels I am regardless.

I have 0 interest in men, I mean i feel bi curious when horny but other than that I am 100% woman. Being with another man while erotic in fantasy really grosses me out in the reality aspect so I dont think thats anything to worry about me telling her I want to be with a man. Plus shes a pretty adventurous woman in the bedroom. We discussed toys and she is really turned on in using strapons and chastity devices and such. So while she admits realizing her bf is ridiculously feminine inside, it coudl still be fun once used to it. Thanks for your reply and concerns trust me I lurked here for awhile before when i was with my ex and had similar issues and was in secret and because of people like you telling me its unfair and selfish made me realize that this time round I can't do it and just have to admit to it and tell her how i feel and how i am and if it works out it does if it doesnt than like i said we've only been together under 2 months, so if it doesn't i know im not emotionally attached and if she feels its too much hopefully she can separate to find a new man more her style without any emotions to hurt her in the break up. But i dont see that happening.

[elainecd]

My times are so different these days, you're a lucky guy.
Sounds like you have a very understanding lady there.
So are you going to continue with NBE or put it on hold?
Also, and this is just a thought, what will you do when she wants something besides a femme man? Can you accept?
or will she happy being Dominatrix to you?
Good luck to you!

[QTPiChrissie]

Hey elaine! How are you today? I do not see your post as critical or judging, just honesty. And you are correct, the discussions have been pretty much about me. But that's partly due to every girlfriend I have had, I have explored my fem side in secret due to fear. This time around, we have been together for under 2 months and I told her all about my tendencies, fantasies, etc. Yesterday she asked if there was anything else she needs to know about me and I told her I would give up everything I am bargaining for right now with you (she has approved me to wear panties, bras, camis, womens jeans...selective few of course ones that are passable for men, and female tops that can pass slightly as unisex.) I have won a huge battle already and I feel adding to it is very selfish and such but I felt compelled to lay it out so its aware. She knows fully how much having breasts to me would mean to me. She has said she is against it right now, but give her time to marinate and adjust to the other stuff i want like the clothing and nails, and she would never stop me from doing what I wish would make me happy in my body but does feel it is changing what God gave you (we are pretty religious people and i guess its a reason why i have felt guilty even dabbling in this a lot) but I am who He has made me to be and I can't change my desires. And does feel a man with breasts isn't sexy but feels I am regardless.

I have 0 interest in men, I mean i feel bi curious when horny but other than that I am 100% woman. Being with another man while erotic in fantasy really grosses me out in the reality aspect so I dont think thats anything to worry about me telling her I want to be with a man. Plus shes a pretty adventurous woman in the bedroom. We discussed toys and she is really turned on in using strapons and chastity devices and such. So while she admits realizing her bf is ridiculously feminine inside, it coudl still be fun once used to it. Thanks for your reply and concerns trust me I lurked here for awhile before when i was with my ex and had similar issues and was in secret and because of people like you telling me its unfair and selfish made me realize that this time round I can't do it and just have to admit to it and tell her how i feel and how i am and if it works out it does if it doesnt than like i said we've only been together under 2 months, so if it doesn't i know im not emotionally attached and if she feels its too much hopefully she can separate to find a new man more her style without any emotions to hurt her in the break up. But i dont see that happening.

Hello, It sounds like you and me are in very similar situations. My gf grew up fairly religious, and while she doesnt practice anymore (and actually resents her parents for such a puritian childhood), she is still steeped in the traditions and values. However, she is very open minded sexually, in part because she was very inexperienced until she met me. I have always had a somewhat kinky mind, in hindsight, I think it was because of my need to explore the female role, I have developed into quite a sexually submissive type. In the past year we have transitioned into a female-dominated relationship, and I am in chastity as well.
We both discussed it and she is fine with finding a 'bull' to satisfy her female needs once I start looking and acting more and more feminine, but says she has no interest in other men except to satisfy her needs on occasion.
She was scared I would want SRS and I assured her that I have zero interest in that (completely true) but that I do have an interest in taking hormones to grow breasts and feminize my body. I asked her to imagine us both walking in bikinis on the beach holding hands and while she said she could, she also said it made her sad to think she would never see me emerge from the ocean bare chested as a man. I told her that makes me sad too, and while I am giving up a lot of male freedoms and experiences, they will be replaced by other new ones that will be just as fun. She was happy to hear that we are both having similar feelings in regarding change (scared, anxious, unsure) but the need to feminize and take PM is almost instinctual in me, I cant help but take pills and its as if my brain shuts off and I just do it like a robot.
My gf and I have been using strap ons for about 10 months now and she really enjoys it, she likes to dress me in a bustier and stockings and wig and have me ride her and she really likes it. She is naturally dominant and enjoys being in charge and the power exchange.
I also have very little interest in men. I used to post an ad on craigslist once in a while when I was horny but even when attractive men responded I couldnt go through with anything because it just didnt do it for me when I thought of it happening in real life, though when I watch porn I love the idea of being one of those gorgeous women being used by such virile manly men! lol
We have been together for 2 and a half years and she wants to get engaged but I feel like we should sort all this out before we take that step, even though she is still pressuring me to buy her the damn right! I want nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with her, but dont want her to have regrets later when her family comes over for the holidays and wonders why I am now a woman! lol
I have also read a lot saying that transgendered people are inherently selfish and I really dont understand that. Are gay people who come out selfish? I mean I know that due to our society, coming out as a TG or homosexual causes collateral damage to loved ones, but is it selfish to express who you really are? Is it our fault our society says that we arent to be accepted? I heard that 40% of the homeless youth are LGBT http://fortytonone.org/, and that there is a 41% suicide attempt rate among TG individuals http://www.livescience.com/11208-high-su...eople.html , yet when we try to come out and be ourselves we are the selfish ones because we are only thinking of our own needs.
This page has been very helpful to me. The comments section is a gold mine of personal experiences and, while some are very scary, others can provide hope:
http://thetransgenderpartner.wordpress.c...-what-now/
Im glad we both found this site and hope we can be each others support system moving forward. Its so nice to know we arent alone anymore <3
Love,
Chrissie

[Sofia Bunny]

Good morning BN folks! My name is Steve and I am a 28 male who has no desire to transition or anything of that. I do love to wear bras and underwear more than boxers and not. Never been a sexual thing just more comfortable wearing them than male attire. Anyways...
I came across this page about a year ago and feel I have studied this site more than I did studying in school lol. I have finally decided to take the plunge. I ordered the PM package of 3 bottles and spray and am anxious to get started. I workout a lot and am fairly in shape. Not fat, nice muscles etc. But all my life I've wanted breasts of my own. I know I'll be stared at, mocked, etc when they become prominent, but I have taken the year to mentally prepare and accept who I am.
I am here to basically find friends, support (for I have a gf that I just started dating and unlike many on here I am in secret with it) and sense it will probably come to an end when the effects of PM take its course (function issues, feminization etc)
Hope to make friends with many of those I admire and inspired me to take these steps and hope to become a familiar face here and help those as I get deeper in to it as many of you have helped me in your posts.

Hi and welcome. I just started with herbs almost two weeks ago. I just wanted to wish you luck. It's after reading so many posts from different people on here that I realize I am not such an odd ball. I think that you will find the friendship you need on here as you start your journey!

[Marina Kits]

I have also read a lot saying that transgendered people are inherently selfish and I really don't understand that.

Love,
Chrissie

Chrissie, you don't understand that because its not true! Being trans does not make you selfish any more than being selfish makes you trans. The two are unrelated. There are no doubt selfish trans people but probably no more than the population at large. It's pure conjecture, but I've personally found the opposite to be true. The most selfless, accepting, nonjudgmental people I know are the ones I've met in my transgender circles. And like some of you above, I have a deep faith and am surrounded, every Sunday, by people who SHOULD be better than the best at being selfless and accepting and yet don't even come remotely close to my trans friends. Still, I like them and hope someday to be the one, who opens their eyes (and hearts) to transgender people. Hopefully I wont meet the same fate as my hero of 2000 years ago.

[QTPiChrissie]

Thank you Kari! That means a lot!
Love,
Chrissie

[Scotti]

In the past year we have transitioned into a female-dominated relationship, and I am in chastity as well. We both discussed it and she is fine with finding a 'bull' to satisfy her female needs once I start looking and acting more and more feminine, but says she has no interest in other men except to satisfy her needs on occasion.
My gf and I have been using strap ons for about 10 months now and she really enjoys it, she likes to dress me in a bustier and stockings and wig and have me ride her and she really likes it. She is naturally dominant and enjoys being in charge and the power exchange.
Love,
Chrissie

My wife and I went through some chastity play earlier this year too! Started with some cheap plastic thing and graduated to wearing a mature metal jailbird. Like your gf my wife is naturally dominant but over time the novelty wore off. She always said it was partly because I enjoyed it.

Never talked about getting her a bull, but there always been interest in other men as well as women. Might be part of the reason why she likes me dressing up, etc as it helps with her fantasies as well. I even use the strapon on her which she thoroughly enjoys (and thus no need for bringing in a man at all)!

[QTPiChrissie]

Sorry to derail this thread into something xrated!
Did you mean the novelty of chastity wore off or of her being dominant?
We bought a metal device and used it for about a month, it helped me learn self control and to understand that all that down there belongs to her and I cant orgasm without her permission (might be shocking to some but it works for us)
There is a cycle of hormones that kicks in when a man orgasms, including a plummeting in oxytocin, an molecule that causes feelings of attachment and bonding. This is why men feel so different immediately after an orgasm. It then takes a couple days to build it back up to that level.
I love the feeling of elevated oxytocin and the lovely connection me and her feel after a few days of chastity and tease and denial.
My gf is hetero but when Im dressed up as a girl when we play she said she was surprised at how turned on she was, so maybe she just isnt being honest with herself! Fingers crossed!
She tried a bull once this fall, he was a nice young guy who was very attractive. She liked it when she was with him but felt very emotional after and wanted to take a break for the time being from that until she could sort out what she wants, but she has told me she fantasizes about a bull nearly every time she is horny!

[Scotti]

Sorry to derail this thread into something xrated!
Did you mean the novelty of chastity wore off or of her being dominant?

No she is still plenty domineering and authoritative, but after sometime we just stopped it. I can cite lots of reasons, so it was probably a combination of them.