1) They're far easier to hide much longer than seems possible. Back before I left my so far last job, I was already medically transitioning and I was wearing was it 36E bra or something. No one ever saw anything or had any idea back then.
2) Breast root width and shape is way more diverse and possibly a problem people almost never recognise. Bras are almost always made with only one shape in mind and that is narrow and projected. My shape is shallow and extra wide and tall breast root. Finding bras is difficult, the size I wear lands 1-3 sizes bigger or smaller depending on the manufacturer, tape and calculators fail because two dimensional tape cannot "read" three dimensional shape like breasts. Also mine look about two to three sizes less by perception unless specifically shown how they're like.
3) Perception is strange. Once they get big enough it feels they're not bigger, but everything else becomes smaller.
4) Back pain, chronically stuck up neck and shoulders is no joke, big boobs are heavy and they're far heavier than it feels to carry them. The consequences are real. My posture is absolutely crap when I'm sitting down braless and not paying attention. I'm having nearly 24/7 backpain, exercise helps with it, so does wearing a well supporting bra. I'm still planning on cleaning the basement and setting up my home gym down there because I badly need to start doing deadlifts and squats etc. to strengthen my back. Also, boobs becoming a burden which hurts is some times invisible, never downplay a woman who complains about it even if she doesn't look like she's hauling massive boobs around, your perception isn't always 100% correct.
5) The old as age complaint about finding nice bras when breast volume exceeds normal catalogue sizes is very real. And the fact that most big bras are boring as fuck, overly expensive "granny bras". Its true, bigger you grow, more scarse the selection is to the point where there's almost nothing to choose from. I'm right at the very end of biggest normally available bras and soon I'll have to tinker and improvise and or order custom sizes.
6) Big boobs are obejctified, lusted after and hated and judged like crazy. I'm facing all the normal issues of being objectified as a woman, but I get extra difficulty firstly because I'm intersex, because I'm transitioning, and because I have big boobs. Old women are judgemental fucks about anyone younger who is dressing up nicely and they're total vultures about this + big boobs to go with it. Old men are lustful drooly idiots with zero self awareness that their staring is creepy and compeltely transparent.
7) Sleeping on my side has become odd because my shoulders keep on becoming stuck up as I can't keep my arms in easy position any more. I also have to morve my boobs around when sleeping on my side so the lower one wont be squished in a bad way. Sleeping on my back is weird because they're choking me, the upper part is pushing on my neck in certain posititions. Sleeping on my tummy is impossible as my spine is in weird angle, it feels like having a thick pillow between my chest and the bed.
8) Trans women are always worried about becoming cis passable. For me this has been super easy, I've been fully stealth in public for a long time now. Breasts and curves in general are a HUGE factor in this, along with passable facial features and having a female voice. But curves are a big big factor. No one usually wants to admit this as most trans women have almost zero curves especially during first few years of transition. Believe me, its one of the things that can totally make it work. Boobs big enough will automatically make poeple think that this person cannot have been any different. People do not believe that anyone non cis sex can have them big, except with huge implants.
9) They make people jealous like crazy. I've been told so many times that "you don't need it" or that "you shouldn't grow any bigger" and I've been told many many times how what I'm doing doesn't work, even though it definitely does. I've been told my boobs are "fake" as in its just swelling and all that jazz, anything to downplay me somehow. I've been belittled about it a whole lot, I know a lot of people avoid me and boobs has to do with it. Along with being curvy, decently good looking for my age, having a passable face and voice and so on. I would have easier social life without. Only women who are willing to discuss bra and big boob problems with me seem to have huge macromastia which makes me look tiny in comparison.
10) Despite all the problems and being impractical, nothing has helped curing my dysphoria as much. And the joy of being able to lactate by choise of doing so, getting them to work with just pumping and herbs and food is amazing. They're not just pretty, they're fully functional. People seem to believe that non cis women cannot have functioning breasts, that's a complete fabrication and a lie that haters use for "othering" anyone non cis. Intersex women, XY trans women, anyone non cis woman has the same breast growth potential, dictated by hormone balance and genetics. And they have the potential to function for their intended purpose.
The biggest most positive surprise has been how this all is even possible. And I've had amazing luck with genetics and finding the right people who have given their help and advice for free on how to make this happen. And now I'm here sharing the good stuff with you all. Its worth it.
