(26-11-2011, 11:25 PM)chrissie Wrote: Bev,
You will be missed, big time. I feel confidante that we will keep in touch; I do hope so.
Big Hugs;
Chrissie xxxx
I'm very sorry indeed that Bev has gone from this forum. She is witty, friendly, kind, and I liked her very much indeed. I liked her so much I tried to be a friend to her. Being a friend means being a conscience. I tried to make her think of how her act of selfishness (her words, not mine) would affect her wife, and how she may very well be grieving the loss of her husband, but accepts it because of her love.
I never got a reply from my last message to her. Whether she has left because what I said had a positive effect (unlikely I fear), or because she didn't want to
have a conscience because of some successful brainwashing, I don't know, but what I do know is that I'm damned if my bloody selfish happiness comes before my loved ones.
If I get mocked by all and sundry for being a man with tits, well, I'll just have to suck it up, won't I? There are plenty of people in the world with gynaecomastia.
As far as I'm concerned, encouraging a TS who is capable of heterosexual intercourse to fully transition to GRS is an act of extreme misogyny towards the wife, and as far as I know, the great majority of misogynists are MEN not women.
Also, all this talk about "lesbians have fun too", is reminiscent of one of the most popular kinds of porn favoured by macho MEN, and is a fantasy most often described in leering tones by MEN, so when you talk about fantasists, just remember that by encouraging a hetero TS to transition you are fulfilling some MALE fantasies.
I would hope, if you were her friend that you would have tried to dissuade her from this course, but somehow I think it unlikely.
If you did encourage it, when you never made your own wife suffer, you should be bloody ashamed of yourself,
Bryony