[MissC]

And, it IS a medical condition in most cases, not a sexual fetish, not a disorder of the mind that can be "corrected" with the right psychologist's intervention. The established treatments aim to lessen the dyphoria. I'm not sure how many completely eliminate anxiety, especially those who transition late in life.

I'm sorry, but here's where my umbrage comes out... not at you, mind, but at the idea that being something other than binary gendered is a disease.

Look at it this way: on one hand, we have people telling us that gender is a "social construct" -- and in some ways, it is. Then on the other hand, we have surgeons ready to cut us up so we fit the social construct, and that insurance should pay for it because it's a "medical condition"! Well, which fucking one is it, anyway?

Look at it another way -- in the case of dysphoria, there are two possibilities: there's something wrong with your body, or there's something wrong with your head. I mean, if we're going to agree that there's something actually wrong, which I don't.

How about the other dysphorias? It's generally agreed that these are mental oddities, treatable by counseling. Ah, but gender dysphoria, a mental condition... we treat with... plastic surgery? Or is it a "birth defect" we treat with hormone pills? Come on now. There's so much horseshit swirling around. When I even hear the word "transition" in this context, it gets my blood pressure up, because it's nothing more than a euphemism for "cut your junk off".

What I'm saying is simple: you're over-thinking it.

My perspective? I'm bi-gendered. I'm a male tomboy with a side of princess. I am one, not like the rest, but I have my place to exist. I have no dysphoria. Mind and body match -- androgynous body, androgynous mind.

You may not be just like me, but you too have your place, your niche, your little cubbyhole. Maybe you're alone in a little cubbyhole, and enviously eyeing a big cubbyhole with lots of fun people in it... but there we go with the grass-is-greener-other-side stuff again.

It's really all about getting in touch with yourself, and matching mind, body, soul together. Skip the doctors and the shrinks -- smoke some weed and meditate. Maybe some yoga or tai chi. I'm saying that what you're going through is a mind-body disconnect... and it's the mind that has to do the yeoman's work of putting them back right.

No joke. I've been through all this. I've gone from an angry person, to a well-adjusted and happy one, so I know of what I speak.