[GoneGirl]

I looked back at my original post that pointed out that my gender dysphoria, though alleviated in one sense, continues in another, despite my herbal HRT program.

What I take away from this discussion that is helpful is:

1. That I must be patient. Flame points out that she has no schedule or time table for reaching her goal. Although I'm twice Flame's age, and time is getting short, it still makes sense to let the process flow at its own rate. I like her financial advice, too.

2. I found comfort in Kari Leigh's recounting of some of the phases she's lived through on her journey that are very similar to my own experience. There does come a point where this rough road becomes smoother; we find out where we fit into the world on a sustained basis.

3. MissC makes the point that a lot of the problem and its solution can be found within us. Dwelling on the negatives instead of the positives can be very damaging.

4. I'm reminded by my friend Sammie, that I can't change society. I have to find a way to integrate into society in a way that suits my needs and personality.

These ideas are just guidelines, not a recipe for eternal bliss, but should help frame the problem and recognize solutions.

Thanks girls, you're advice has been most helpful.

Clara