10-03-2014, 04:30 PM
Throughout my life I've heard people say that for men sex and love are separable. "It meant nothing," is a common response to a wife's discovery of her husband's one night stand. The wife hears just a lame excuse because in her mind love and sex are inextricably linked.
I never felt there was a hard link between love and sex. It fact, in my own twisted mind, sex was sordid and sinful. It's the last thing I'd want to engage in with someone I loved and respected. I've often wondered if it's that subconscious guilt and shame that prevented my being a good male lover versus my crossdreaming desires to take the role of the woman during sex. Maybe both played a role.
It's strange how things have changed since my HRT. My male sex urges are practically non-existent. My interest in sex is linked with my love for my wife, and we enjoy intimacy more than ever and more often than not it is she that initiates. For now restoring male sexual function monthly is important to us, but I don't know how long that will be necessary.
Being a male lesbian suits me just fine.
Clara
I never felt there was a hard link between love and sex. It fact, in my own twisted mind, sex was sordid and sinful. It's the last thing I'd want to engage in with someone I loved and respected. I've often wondered if it's that subconscious guilt and shame that prevented my being a good male lover versus my crossdreaming desires to take the role of the woman during sex. Maybe both played a role.
It's strange how things have changed since my HRT. My male sex urges are practically non-existent. My interest in sex is linked with my love for my wife, and we enjoy intimacy more than ever and more often than not it is she that initiates. For now restoring male sexual function monthly is important to us, but I don't know how long that will be necessary.
Being a male lesbian suits me just fine.
Clara