01-04-2014, 05:36 PM
Barry,
All of what's already been said is really good insight. Personally, I see nothing alarming in what you're experiencing. It's similar to my experience but I'm a lot farther along than you. My ability to become erect was very scattered for a while but it's OK now. I think it lasted a couple months. Now I ONLY get erect when my wife and I are being intimate. No morning BS and since my sex drive is completely under my control, I don't crave masturbation and porn. I'm not sure if "it" would work at all for that purpose because I haven't even tried for 5 months so who cares right? Before that however, I think it was a little hard to get myself aroused. Obviously, your experience might be different but I wouldn't panic yet if I were you and at your stage, everything should be easily reversible by stopping PM.
I should note that intimacy with my wife is different than it used to be. It's more emotional and "close" and less about the act. Since I revealed everything to her and continue to be completely open with her about my crazy thoughts, desires and hurts, our intimacy is irresistible and truly unexplainable. I told her this weekend it's like being in a bubble with her where I feel safe and exposed before her. It's like nothing I have or have had with anyone else ...ever! And it's wonderful! I highly recommend it but it required and continues to require a lot of vulnerability and effort to achieve that level of intimacy. When we're "together" it's the culmination of something very special. ...Perhaps a really good thing about being on herbal rather than pharma. If I was on spiro and high levels of estrogen, I bet the physical act would be impossible.
All of what's already been said is really good insight. Personally, I see nothing alarming in what you're experiencing. It's similar to my experience but I'm a lot farther along than you. My ability to become erect was very scattered for a while but it's OK now. I think it lasted a couple months. Now I ONLY get erect when my wife and I are being intimate. No morning BS and since my sex drive is completely under my control, I don't crave masturbation and porn. I'm not sure if "it" would work at all for that purpose because I haven't even tried for 5 months so who cares right? Before that however, I think it was a little hard to get myself aroused. Obviously, your experience might be different but I wouldn't panic yet if I were you and at your stage, everything should be easily reversible by stopping PM.
I should note that intimacy with my wife is different than it used to be. It's more emotional and "close" and less about the act. Since I revealed everything to her and continue to be completely open with her about my crazy thoughts, desires and hurts, our intimacy is irresistible and truly unexplainable. I told her this weekend it's like being in a bubble with her where I feel safe and exposed before her. It's like nothing I have or have had with anyone else ...ever! And it's wonderful! I highly recommend it but it required and continues to require a lot of vulnerability and effort to achieve that level of intimacy. When we're "together" it's the culmination of something very special. ...Perhaps a really good thing about being on herbal rather than pharma. If I was on spiro and high levels of estrogen, I bet the physical act would be impossible.