24-05-2014, 04:13 AM
Heather, honey, I'm feeling tremendous empathy for you. I can imagine how disappointed you must feel to have a significant part of you rejected by the one you love. It's so sad.
I've tried to put myself in your position. What would I do in your circumstances? Thank god I'm not faced with the same challenge. I feel very fortunate to be able to move beyond the problem of S.O. acceptance.
My advice is to keep trying. Be gentle, but keep working on her. Try to uncover the real reasons for her rejection. It may stem from some deep emotional insecurity. It may be based on fear. Fear of the unknown, social rejection, or even the loss of her husband. Who knows? She probably doesn't consciously know the root cause of her feelings either, but unless it can be determined and defused, nothing much will change.
Please PM me if you need someone to talk to. Oftentimes that helps.
Hugs,
Clara
I've tried to put myself in your position. What would I do in your circumstances? Thank god I'm not faced with the same challenge. I feel very fortunate to be able to move beyond the problem of S.O. acceptance.
My advice is to keep trying. Be gentle, but keep working on her. Try to uncover the real reasons for her rejection. It may stem from some deep emotional insecurity. It may be based on fear. Fear of the unknown, social rejection, or even the loss of her husband. Who knows? She probably doesn't consciously know the root cause of her feelings either, but unless it can be determined and defused, nothing much will change.
Please PM me if you need someone to talk to. Oftentimes that helps.
Hugs,
Clara