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Clara & Sammi,
I am moved to tears, honestly, you girls are so kind and supportive. Maybe one day my experiences will allow me to have the wisdom you have now. Above all it's the warmth and empathy you so readily apply that makes me so happy to be part of this social group and it is indeed an honour to be included.

As of today it seems that it's "one step forward and three back" my wife has just said that if I proceed with the next appointment then that's "us finished" !
She has clearly been thinking about it more than I gave credit for, with 45 years of marriage behind us it's a 'no - brainer' !

I know in my heart whilst it's the sensible choice to back off it will not sit well in my mind. This seems a good time to apply some retail therapy to reduce the turmoil that is going on inside me.

My wife ( don't get me wrong, she can be very loving and generous ) has a memory of an elephant, she even brings up issues like the first car radio I bought instead of a household item over 40 years ago ..... True So I know this saga is bound to stand the test of time.

The saying ' Life's a bitch and then we die ' certainly has a ring to it .

Love you girls more than you think.

Your dear friend
Heather Xx

Oh Heather, honey I feel for you I really do.

Unfortunately I can also see your wifes point of view, its that very issue that has stopped me telling my wife, ( that and the fact I told a girlfriend many years ago, and I ended up changing almost all of my friends )

When we hear of these problems, it makes those of us in the same situation really "gun" shy to follow the same route. On a positive note, at least the cat is out of the bag and from here on in you can start to move forward. Hopefully, given enough time your wife can come around and you can both find a common ground that suits both of you.