[Heather-H]

Oh Heather, honey I feel for you I really do.

Unfortunately I can also see your wifes point of view, its that very issue that has stopped me telling my wife, ( that and the fact I told a girlfriend many years ago, and I ended up changing almost all of my friends )

When we hear of these problems, it makes those of us in the same situation really "gun" shy to follow the same route. On a positive note, at least the cat is out of the bag and from here on in you can start to move forward. Hopefully, given enough time your wife can come around and you can both find a common ground that suits both of you.

Thank you Janet dear, you are so right and I will keep working at it. I haven't cancelled the future appointment yet as I am biding my time in the hope she will soften. This appointment is so vital to me and therefore reluctant to let it slip through my fingers.
I was helping my youngest son today with a huge garden project. He noticed recently that his Mum seemed to be hostile towards me and wondered why. I said that I have admitted to something that your Mum has difficulty accepting. " you haven't cheated on her have you" ? NO - definitely not I replied. I went on to explain my GD and the CDing. " is that all" .........I have known this for years. Mum told me about this over 18 years ago and it's fine by me and my wife.

The conversation went on in such a positive manner I couldn't believe my ears and he was so behind me I was struggling not to have one of my emotional attacks.

I am considering letting the secret out to my other two sons but I will peruse over that in the coming weeks, don't want to be too hasty.

Maybe the 3 steps back are only small ones after all !

Thanks again darling Janet

Heather X