[Heather-H]

Heather, dear, please don't think you are a burden talking about this very emotional issue. The lack of acceptance by a close family member can cause a great deal of mental distress that only adds to the dysphoria we feel from our mixed gender identity.

I do think you are right about backing off for now. These things take time to resolve themselves. Pushing too aggressively can sometimes make matters worse.

I'm happy to hear that your one son (or was it son-in-law?) is fully accepting of your TG nature. That has to be a comfort to you.

Is there a TG organization nearby that you could join? I can't tell you how much satisfaction and mental clarity I received by joining such a support group here in Chicago and attending just the first meeting. Just to be around real people who are like me gender-wise is so reassuring.

Don't hesitate to PM me if you want to.

Hugs,
Clara

Hi Clara dear,
Yes there are two such organisations within 30 miles of me. One of them has already contacted me with their meeting times and dates etc. some members meet a little earlier and have a meal together which sounds even more exciting as it will allow me to settle into their company and ease the pressure. The closest one to me in Liverpool City Centre is a club I used to belong to many many years ago. Obviously I am unlikely to know anyone now so it's a case of 'six of one and half a dozen of the other' lol !

Yes it was my youngest son who has accepted my TG ways he is 36 so not a kid, he is fiercely intelligent and rational, how I envy those qualities! The other two sons are older, one I think will be equally accepting but the other I have reservations about.

Today I feel more like my Fem self, calm and 100% Focussed and plan to trawl some sites for some extra outfits. I would need to go some to even follow the trail that Sammie has trod. You have some lovely clothes too but I suspect you may not be able to quite match our Couture Queen.

I may take you up on your kind offer to PM you when I have fully formulated my thoughts. Take care you lovely friend.

Heather X