[Marina Kits]

...but I feel I would be willing to try and bury this feeling again, for the sake of our marriage.

If you can bury the feelings successfully and think that's the best option, go for it. It's worth a shot at least but sadly, not too many succeed at it.

.... I think its safe to say, she has no issues with me being transgendered, but she does not want to go along for the ride (if that makes sense )

You may not see it this way but in my opinion, being transgendered and transitioning are two different things and the later does NOT have to take place because of the former. I'm convinced there are tens of thousands of transgendered people in the world who will never transition for one or more reasons and many not even share that fact with anyone else. THAT'S what I'd be telling my wife if I were you - transGENDER does NOT equal transition. You and your relationship MIGHT be able to remain very much the same even in light of the fact that you're transgendered because you may never transition. At the very least, you probably don't know what lies ahead at the moment. And, perhaps, she couldn't stay married if you decide to transition tomorrow (too much change too fast) but that's not to say it will always be that way. My wife and I have talked about SRS as far out as 10 years from now while sustaining our marriage through the whole thing. If things change slow enough, there might be hope for any outcome.

...I strongly agree, Kari, about assuring one's wife that transition is off the table. Even if it turns out not to be the case, it's too much to expect a wife to accept at this stage. I'm not suggesting lying to her...

Clara

I'm a little uneasy with that statement. I personally wouldn't tell her transition is, "off the table" rather I'd say it's a very distant possibility and only if we could stay married and only with her unreserved permission... but I wouldn't tell her it's "out of the question". ...Unless of course, you know for sure that it really is off the table and you cant imagine ever transitioning. It's a point of personal preference and perspective I guess. For myself, when I told her, I puked EVERYTHING out, once and for all. It worked for me but everyone is different.