[undecided]

Thanks for the suggestions, it defiantly helps. I'm not sure bringing up the PM is a good idea at all right now. I'm going to cycle what PM I have left down to a low maintenance dose, I strongly suspect at this point that is a bridge than needs to be crossed when our relationship is strong again. There are still lots of tears right now, but we are ( hopefully ) working through the issues. She has no issues with me being trans-gendered, its the 25 years of lies and deceit, but openly admits if I had confided in her early on, she would have wanted to split. Its defiantly a push pull situation, the lines get redrawn at every discussion. I don't see an Atlanta trip in my future any time soon, but every day it gets a little better.

You girls are definitely the best !