[Marina Kits]

...In answer to my wife's asking why she wasn't told earlier, I could only say that I was afraid of losing her forever. How could I live with that?

Clara

I felt the same way and I think it touches on what I encourage everyone to do when explaining this to our spouses, be totally honest about your feelings. I know it's really hard for our formerly testosterone drenched brains to locate and identify those deep emotions such as fear of losing a spouse but it's totally true and needs to be communicated with them. "I didn't tell you because I was afraid of losing you". "I didn't tell you because I didn't want to disappoint you, embarrass you, hurt you". I didn't tell you because I was ashamed, thought others would think I was a pervert, thought I could handle it, stuff it or keep it hidden". "It wasn't too bad back then but it's more than I can bear alone anymore." "It was wrong for me to withhold it from you, can you forgive me?" All I want to do is be totally honest with you from this point forward". "What can I do for you?" "I just want to serve you and make you happy." "Thank you for trying to understand, for loving me, for not getting mad." "You mean the world to me. I don't want to lose you now or ever."

If you ever need some more logical and less emotional arguments at some point, let us know, I can easily come up with some of those too.