06-07-2014, 03:13 PM
Hi Emily,
I am sorry you are distressed, honey. I well understand why. This whole business is way outside the mainstream and finding people from whom you can get good advice is hard, especially, I imagine, in the situation you describe.
First, I would recommend trying to relax. No one is pointing a gun at you demanding that you do anything.
Many have travelled this road before you and it will be ok.
Ok?
Next, the fact that you are here at all indicates you may have gender issues of some kind. Have you, or can you find a gender therapist near you? Trying to determine what you honestly want is the first step. You say you do crossdress. Have you been doing so for long? Some bio males have CD tendencies while others are TS, and there is a large grey area in between. If CD is a sexual interest for yo then trying to grow breasts may take you into areas you will not want nor need to explore. It is a very slippery slope. For some, simply CD alone is enough to quell the GID.
On the the hand, if your GID is strong, then pursuing change may be right for you.
The nice thing about herbs is that the changes occur more slowly and allow for steady modification as needed. And your needs may change.
GID, especially when you are younger, can come and go. Sometimes you may enter a period where the anxiety and accompanying urges may wane or disappear for months or even years. Sometimes this is organic and sometimes caused by repression and sublimation. Either way, if it is real, and not a mere curiosity, it (the GID)will return, and it will become stronger with age.
So, thats the first step.
Where are you currently in that regard? We can move forward from there.
Its ok, though. Really.
You have friends here who can help.
Hugs
Sammie
I am sorry you are distressed, honey. I well understand why. This whole business is way outside the mainstream and finding people from whom you can get good advice is hard, especially, I imagine, in the situation you describe.
First, I would recommend trying to relax. No one is pointing a gun at you demanding that you do anything.
Many have travelled this road before you and it will be ok.
Ok?
Next, the fact that you are here at all indicates you may have gender issues of some kind. Have you, or can you find a gender therapist near you? Trying to determine what you honestly want is the first step. You say you do crossdress. Have you been doing so for long? Some bio males have CD tendencies while others are TS, and there is a large grey area in between. If CD is a sexual interest for yo then trying to grow breasts may take you into areas you will not want nor need to explore. It is a very slippery slope. For some, simply CD alone is enough to quell the GID.
On the the hand, if your GID is strong, then pursuing change may be right for you.
The nice thing about herbs is that the changes occur more slowly and allow for steady modification as needed. And your needs may change.
GID, especially when you are younger, can come and go. Sometimes you may enter a period where the anxiety and accompanying urges may wane or disappear for months or even years. Sometimes this is organic and sometimes caused by repression and sublimation. Either way, if it is real, and not a mere curiosity, it (the GID)will return, and it will become stronger with age.
So, thats the first step.
Where are you currently in that regard? We can move forward from there.
Its ok, though. Really.
You have friends here who can help.
Hugs
Sammie