[GoneGirl]

Yup, Told my DW about Breast Nexus and how to get to it. I invited her to read anything she wants there, and she has. When I came out to her, I felt it was important to promise from then on to be open and honest about my feelings, my goals, and my actions. No secrets. No hiding. She's seen every picture that I've posted on BN, too, and those of many other members, too. My postings raise questions from time to time, but I firmly believe that trust is critical in transitioning within a marriage, if it is to work. That means doing it as a team with consideration given to both party's feelings and needs. My thinking is that most objections from an SO are based on insecurities that cannot be neutralized if trust is absent.

Clara

I had similar feelings myself, but a couple of things held me back. Firstly, here have I been, spilling all sorts of things about her to people who to her (or even to me for many visitors to the board) are complete strangers. While the cloak of anonymity and the confessional aspect of some of rhe postings are maybe an excuse, I am reminded of the rather disturbed boy I was at school with who used to leave pieces of paper around the place confessing his sins. No one minded as long as they were his own sins, but when he started on other peoples' sins they tended to object. Secondly, I'm not certain how she would react to my avatar, in our present statel of play, even though it in fact represents the limit and entirety of my cross dressing to date.

I think I've read every one of your posts, Annie, and for the life of me I can't remember anything about your wife that cast her in a negative light. As to her reluctance to embrace your trans nature, that is the expected going-in assumption we all make. Of course, you know your wife best, so I defer to your judgment, but I wouldn't lose any sleep over the possibility of her reading yours and other posts here. Who knows, it might be the key to greater understanding and acceptance.

Clara