[GoneGirl]

I consider myself very fortunate to have had the acceptance of my wife going back almost to the very day last October when I came out to her about my transgenderism. The problem is, what it means to be transgender is a moving target for us. It started as occasional crossdressing in private and taking PM for mental balance, which quickly led to a quest for breast growth and other feminizing efforts. Soon it was wigs and makeup followed by stepping out of the closet and meeting other transgenders. Each step raised new challenges to our relationship that had to be worked on. We both questioned where does this end? Can our relationship stay intact? Is there a point when the relationship is no longer viable?

My DW and I had a discussion about this just last night having recently come out to my mom and having made appointments to begin doctor monitored HRT with the intention of transitioning. New concerns arise. Are you transsexual? Must I now adjust to being in a lesbian relationship for us to stay together? I couldn't answer the questions. It's day by day now. I could only say that everything that's happened so far feels right for me. Would you go all the way including SRS? What would be the point of that? But, I see a worried look on her face, and I realize the goal of staying together is not a slam dunk.

We are meeting another TG couple tonight for the first time over a cup of coffee. This couple is facing all the same challenges. I think each of us are reaching out for answers and support for what is a very scary stage in our lives.

Clara