[Marina Kits]

Kari, I say this with trepidation, since the last thing I want to do is to scare or offend you. We all want to control our own natrative, but once a secret is out it no longer belongs to you. Have you considered taking preemptive steps that are still within your control? Understand, I mean no harm and no judgement as only you know your situation.
Hugs
Sammie

Funny you should say that Sammie. It occurred to me Saturday morning that when I told my wife a year and a half ago I took a big risk. At the time it had become to unbearable to hold the secret by myself anymore and I had to tell her. About an hour after that, one of my gurlfriends summed it up quite succinctly, "you lose control when you tell the first person". It was hard hitting but I have come to peace with that fact now. The clock is counting down. Someday, I'll be outed by myself or someone else. It's only a matter of time.

Preemptive measures? That's the other thing she told me. I would be terrified for about a week but during that time, I'd be forced to role play hundreds of scenarios in my mind and eventually I'd have a response for most situations or a new plan that considers a leak by someone and I'd feel comfortable again when I do. I'm sure glad I called her. She was full of insight because she came out to the world a year ago and learned a lot.