I found this a very interesting post. Coincidentally (Clara, we seem to be good at coincidences!) the highlighted paragraph at the end echoes a conclusion I was coming to yesterday. As a 'transgenderist' who very much wishes to stay married, yesterday was not a very good day for us. After travelling half way across the continent the day before and arriving home to unexpected problems, at least one due to a bad oversight on my part, J was having a down day (saying that with what you have told me about your gender variance, I think you may have stolen my marriage).
We have always both believed that marriage is something that requires continuing work, repairs and maintenance, and this has never been truer than under our present circumstances. I believe that we have built something together over more than 50 years which is no longer based on just gender or sexuality and renders any issue of sexual orientation no longer really relevant, and that our marriage is what we make of it - we can break it or we may have to modify it but I do hope we can't steal it from each other. And today is another day.
We have always both believed that marriage is something that requires continuing work, repairs and maintenance, and this has never been truer than under our present circumstances. I believe that we have built something together over more than 50 years which is no longer based on just gender or sexuality and renders any issue of sexual orientation no longer really relevant, and that our marriage is what we make of it - we can break it or we may have to modify it but I do hope we can't steal it from each other. And today is another day.