Annie,
I, too, believe that one's marriage needs daily attention to ensure its continuation and provide for the well-being of each partner. I guess the hardest part of accepting a husband's transgenderism is the prospect of finding yourself married to someone else.
My wife has voiced her sadness at 'losing' the husband she loved very much, and having a strange woman take his place uninvited. That perspective has been changing over the months as she comes to realize that this strange woman is not that different, and in many ways is better, than the husband she married. It eases, but doesn't eliminate, the pain which she has been forced to bear, even as she's heartened by how much happier I am now that I'm finally able to experience life as my true self.
I hope that J will come to see things the same way. Don't despair.
Hugs,
Clara
I, too, believe that one's marriage needs daily attention to ensure its continuation and provide for the well-being of each partner. I guess the hardest part of accepting a husband's transgenderism is the prospect of finding yourself married to someone else.
My wife has voiced her sadness at 'losing' the husband she loved very much, and having a strange woman take his place uninvited. That perspective has been changing over the months as she comes to realize that this strange woman is not that different, and in many ways is better, than the husband she married. It eases, but doesn't eliminate, the pain which she has been forced to bear, even as she's heartened by how much happier I am now that I'm finally able to experience life as my true self.
I hope that J will come to see things the same way. Don't despair.
Hugs,
Clara