[GoneGirl]

Annie,

I, too, believe that one's marriage needs daily attention to ensure its continuation and provide for the well-being of each partner. But, OMG, I'm perplexed. I read your post over several times and cannot understand what you mean by:

"you may have stolen my marriage)."

I certainly hope not. Please explain.

Clara

Just to avoid any possible misunderstanding before I start, it was my DW, O&O, or whatever inadequate identifier one needs to use (so I sometimes fall back on 'J' which is less impersonal), that made the comment, and left me puzzling it out.

Yes, Annie, when I later rereading your post after two cups of black coffee cleared my head of morning sleepiness, I realized that it was J that made the comment. I edited my post as you see it now.

I'm not sure about the manipulation angle in your interaction with J. How is divulging an embarrassing, if not shameful and potentially harmful secret designed to manipulate?

Clara