16-08-2014, 04:48 AM
I would guess that concerns with online security and anonymity would play a part in name choice.
If I had joined under a male name it would have been under a pseudonym. When I joined I had only ever told my ex fiancée about my female side and the though of being "outed" or "caught out" terrified me.
Originally I chose Denita because I like how it sounds and I had a friend with the same name that I admire for her vivaciousness, passion and outlook on life.
This is really weird but I'm finding it really difficult thinking about Denita in the third person. As a user name.
This question has helped me realise something. I had my male side and female side but could not show my female side because again, gender role, society, etc and I did not want to upset family or get caught out. Now I don't have to hide it, I don't have male or female sides. Both sides are mixed now, so it might have been a user name to give expression of my feminine side to start off with but now it's me and it is now a better expression of who I am than my real name is.
Denita
If I had joined under a male name it would have been under a pseudonym. When I joined I had only ever told my ex fiancée about my female side and the though of being "outed" or "caught out" terrified me.
Originally I chose Denita because I like how it sounds and I had a friend with the same name that I admire for her vivaciousness, passion and outlook on life.
This is really weird but I'm finding it really difficult thinking about Denita in the third person. As a user name.
This question has helped me realise something. I had my male side and female side but could not show my female side because again, gender role, society, etc and I did not want to upset family or get caught out. Now I don't have to hide it, I don't have male or female sides. Both sides are mixed now, so it might have been a user name to give expression of my feminine side to start off with but now it's me and it is now a better expression of who I am than my real name is.
Denita