[AnnieBL]

Heck, there are a fair number of cis females who cannot climax through vaginal penetration...just saying...
Sex, or rather, making love, is about so much more than what bits you have. It is about emotion, trust, caring and imagination far more, I believe, than about any simple physical sensation. At least it always has been for me.

I've been looking at this thread and thinking that it is a 'must post' one for me. But now Sammie has said the most important part of what I wanted to say. Making love is not just about reaching a climax. I found that too much concentration on that one thing can damage the whole experience for both parties, and some women in particular even say that it is better without. Be that as may, I haven't reached a climax for nearly five years, but that was only ever just a part of it, and it was only while I was struggling to get 'over the top' that our lovemaking really suffered. My O&O would certainly prefer that I used my own spigot rather than a facsimile, and is now having some difficulty in coming to terms with my real gender identity, but I'm hopeful that we're working through this, and things on the lovemaking front are certainly much better than they were in the dark days five years ago. Certainly I live in hope of one day reaching a true female type climax, but we're not there yet, and perhaps never will be.

To again quote the poet Billy (Wordsworth this tme):

Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind