27-09-2014, 01:36 AM
Sammie,
Your friend is showing a special kind of courage in doing what she is doing today; a whole different kind of courage from military courage. Over my past few weeks of 'coming out' a number of people have commented on my courage but for me, Annie, it is not courage at all, I am getting my life back and rejoicing in it, my only anxiety being the severe lack of facilities for trans people in this province. Sometimes I almost wish that somebody would take issue with me so that I can do what you are advocating. The nearest I have got so far was meeting in the village library a fellow member of the board of the local historical society, who gave me a startled look and when I spoke to him turned on his heel and walked out. Since we have politely disliked each other for years, it was a victory of sorts for me that he was the one who lost his cool. As Annie I'm quite a bit more social and outgoing than my pseudo-male persona ever was (but I still won't dance!), and I am well and truly out in the village now. If people notice at all, they are interested and curious rather than hostile, so may be to that extent I am spreading the word.
Your friend is showing a special kind of courage in doing what she is doing today; a whole different kind of courage from military courage. Over my past few weeks of 'coming out' a number of people have commented on my courage but for me, Annie, it is not courage at all, I am getting my life back and rejoicing in it, my only anxiety being the severe lack of facilities for trans people in this province. Sometimes I almost wish that somebody would take issue with me so that I can do what you are advocating. The nearest I have got so far was meeting in the village library a fellow member of the board of the local historical society, who gave me a startled look and when I spoke to him turned on his heel and walked out. Since we have politely disliked each other for years, it was a victory of sorts for me that he was the one who lost his cool. As Annie I'm quite a bit more social and outgoing than my pseudo-male persona ever was (but I still won't dance!), and I am well and truly out in the village now. If people notice at all, they are interested and curious rather than hostile, so may be to that extent I am spreading the word.