20-11-2014, 06:37 PM
Dianna1395,
I don't have a lot of time to respond to your post but something is better than nothing. ...First off, welcome. I'm glad you took the time to introduce yourself.
I get the impression that you have a lot of things on your mind at any given time. You're not sure where you want to go. You've experienced the mental advantages of balancing your hormones and you know you're TG but your male facade is your biggest hurdle to becoming who you want to be. ...Welcome to being trans. sorting that out isn't easy but it sounds like you really are in a good position to to do whatever needs to be done on one level - your relationships. Family ties are not strong, no spouse and no kids. that gives you a lot of freedom that many of us DON'T have. Limited funds is going to be a problem for you. Everything costs something whether you cope minimally or go all the way. One thing I see in what you've said sounds unrealistic. Unfortunately, there's no TG store, no app, no machine where you can select your ideal body, step inside and exit in the body of your dreams. Even the tools we have at our disposal can only do so much which may or may not be enough for you. Strength and femininity may be hard to accomplish. You have a cursed "Y" chromosome and all that comes with it. You can tweak some things a little but you need to have realistic expectations. Try but don't be disappointed. I'd encourage you to loose weight if you have extra. It's best and most successful thing I've done to appear more feminine. A well fit male body looks a whole lot more feminine than a body with a spare tire in the middle. That's decidedly male! The next best thing I did was grow out my hair. Hormones and herbs are helpful but they aren't at the top of the list. I take them more for the mental effect than anything. Good luck on your journey. Thanks for introducing yourself.
I don't have a lot of time to respond to your post but something is better than nothing. ...First off, welcome. I'm glad you took the time to introduce yourself.
I get the impression that you have a lot of things on your mind at any given time. You're not sure where you want to go. You've experienced the mental advantages of balancing your hormones and you know you're TG but your male facade is your biggest hurdle to becoming who you want to be. ...Welcome to being trans. sorting that out isn't easy but it sounds like you really are in a good position to to do whatever needs to be done on one level - your relationships. Family ties are not strong, no spouse and no kids. that gives you a lot of freedom that many of us DON'T have. Limited funds is going to be a problem for you. Everything costs something whether you cope minimally or go all the way. One thing I see in what you've said sounds unrealistic. Unfortunately, there's no TG store, no app, no machine where you can select your ideal body, step inside and exit in the body of your dreams. Even the tools we have at our disposal can only do so much which may or may not be enough for you. Strength and femininity may be hard to accomplish. You have a cursed "Y" chromosome and all that comes with it. You can tweak some things a little but you need to have realistic expectations. Try but don't be disappointed. I'd encourage you to loose weight if you have extra. It's best and most successful thing I've done to appear more feminine. A well fit male body looks a whole lot more feminine than a body with a spare tire in the middle. That's decidedly male! The next best thing I did was grow out my hair. Hormones and herbs are helpful but they aren't at the top of the list. I take them more for the mental effect than anything. Good luck on your journey. Thanks for introducing yourself.