09-02-2015, 10:44 PM
Wow, wherever do I begin. Okay, lets see if I can shed a bit more light here. I mostly agree with and understand the first part of your reply. In a nutshell, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
That is more or less true. I do tend to measure myself based on others. How can I not? Yes, I do realize we are not all the same, we do not all have the same skillset, mindset etc. But short of being blunt and asking directly, which is not in my character, I am not aware of a better means. What I perceive, what others perceive and the reality of that perception are not always the same. So improving my self worth is somewhat based on what I measure against others.
Apparently my winking smiley was lost in translation. I knew what you meant by misfit, why else would you have it in quotes. I chose to be silly and go with the negative connotation of misfits. Anyways, I don't really fit in any one clique, which in part may be a good thing. It has given me a much broader perspective on people in general. It is also what has allowed me to have a better insight as to how various groups view things. Of course this can somewhat be problematic for me as some points of views can be quite narrow minded, and unfortunately I am not always outspoken enough to weigh in my own perspective. Hence the internal turmoil, self conflict, and confusion. Too many thoughts, too many points of views, which is really the right path to choose?
True, it does feel like an emotional drain, and yes, it is a product of my own doing. I suppose that happens when you take in too much too quickly. As with anything, in time I am sure I will sort through everything. It is a process I will have to go through so that I can be balanced again. Perhaps now that I am older and "wiser", I will be able to better manage my emotions and thoughts instead of bottling them up inside. Time will tell I suppose.
(09-02-2015, 05:41 PM)MissC Wrote: What I see of you, Fire And Ice, is that you use other people as yardsticks to measure your own worth... and that's ass-backwards.
That is more or less true. I do tend to measure myself based on others. How can I not? Yes, I do realize we are not all the same, we do not all have the same skillset, mindset etc. But short of being blunt and asking directly, which is not in my character, I am not aware of a better means. What I perceive, what others perceive and the reality of that perception are not always the same. So improving my self worth is somewhat based on what I measure against others.
(09-02-2015, 05:41 PM)MissC Wrote: Not only that, but I'm getting from the context that you conceptualize "misfit" as a bad thing. It's not. I use it to describe, for example, a "nerd" clique rather than a "jock" clique.
Apparently my winking smiley was lost in translation. I knew what you meant by misfit, why else would you have it in quotes. I chose to be silly and go with the negative connotation of misfits. Anyways, I don't really fit in any one clique, which in part may be a good thing. It has given me a much broader perspective on people in general. It is also what has allowed me to have a better insight as to how various groups view things. Of course this can somewhat be problematic for me as some points of views can be quite narrow minded, and unfortunately I am not always outspoken enough to weigh in my own perspective. Hence the internal turmoil, self conflict, and confusion. Too many thoughts, too many points of views, which is really the right path to choose?
(09-02-2015, 05:41 PM)MissC Wrote: It seems that you view life as one long emotional drain. As long as you view it as such, that's what it will continue to be. But no matter what you think, or how bad you think you have it, or how much you might protest -- you CAN change that.
It gets easier when you learn to view life as a farce.
True, it does feel like an emotional drain, and yes, it is a product of my own doing. I suppose that happens when you take in too much too quickly. As with anything, in time I am sure I will sort through everything. It is a process I will have to go through so that I can be balanced again. Perhaps now that I am older and "wiser", I will be able to better manage my emotions and thoughts instead of bottling them up inside. Time will tell I suppose.