[MissC]

Many of my trans friends are stuck in low gear or are not moving at all. I have no choice but to leave them behind.

That is a... staggering... statement. It sounds... well....

I have a wide variety of friends on the (for lack of a better phrase) T* spectrum -- gender queer/fluid, semi-annual crossdressers, weekend warriors, non-ops, transitioners, post-ops, drag queens, and even a shemale porn star. Yes, real-life local friends, not social media "friends".

Everyone is where they are, and it's their own responsibility to be happy with it. I wouldn't dream of judging any of them based on my little spot on the spectrum as a yardstick. I don't consider myself to be "ahead" or "behind" anyone!

I believe myself to be fairly well adjusted in my little space... I've learned to not envy others' seeming perfection, in a grass-always-greener fashion. The post-op and the occasional crossdresser probably envy each other's lives for their own reasons. It's just pointless to want someone else's life.

But leaving people behind because they don't share your exact ambitions? Good luck keeping friends with an attitude like that!