[MissC]

I'm not putting a value judgment on anyone else's choice.

I really hope you mean that, in contrast to your posting history.

It seems, to me anyway, that you've made an effort to de-legitimize folks who have not chosen your path.

To be totally fair, you would not be unique in that regard. Late transitioners, it is known, tend to be... different... from the rest of the T* spectrum in many ways. For myself, I accept that fact, because I can accept that the late transitioner has been through much more self-denial, burial of intention, and destruction of self-worth than I and others of younger generations have.

In other words, I have been through some self-hatred, but not 50 years of it.

I have learned to sympathize with your position... but that does not mean I can condone all of your reaction to it. You must learn to live within the context of the world that *IS*, now, today. The world now is good. I have, for example, just learned of a marriage between a girl I once fancied, and a trans-man (FTM). A delightful couple. The world is indeed changing.

Regardless, I wish you peace. May you find it for yourself... but please also realize that younger generations have nothing whatsoever to gain from the stories of pain from times past. The pain and awfulness of gender-otherness is over and gone; only remnants remain, only in places unenlightened by literacy.

It does make me feel unwanted to know that I am part of an older generation being pushed aside by such modern thinking... but as a 30-something... I am pleased to know that my generation -- the Generation of X -- made it happen.

Peace out, Clara... be excellent to yourself, and each other.