[flamesabers]

I have very mixed feelings about the article. On the one hand I think the author has very good reason to feel deceived and betrayed. On the other hand she strikes me as being very insecure with her own femininity. I get the impression she fears that she's going to be replaced by her transgender husband as the 'woman' in the relationship. In her situation I think she has two choices: leave her husband if this is too overwhelming for her, or come to accept the situation and make the best of it. I can't help but wonder if she might find a little solace by making a decision rather than languishing between what to do or what not to do. Maybe I'm wrong, but I sense it's almost as if she wishes her husband would give up transitioning and go back to acting like the husband she knew for 21 years. Perhaps that is way she doesn't want to make the hard decision of choosing between those two difficult choices?

Bryony,

I'm not sure how women could hide such profound feelings in the long-term. Sooner or later, I suspect such feelings will come out either gradually or in one big explosion.