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Bryony,

Yes, I agree the FtM wife is the mirror opposite of the MtF husband. I've even used this analogy before to discourage others from trying to pursue NBE without disclosing it to their significant other. I think a limitation with this article is it doesn't tell the story from the husband's perspective. Perhaps he has a very different view, and if he wrote an article if may be him who is portrayed in a more favorable light. My point is the pressure to transition can be very difficult on both parties, not just the spouse.

Your suggestion of the husband taking estrogen but still presenting as a male is an interesting one. It's probably the closest thing to a compromise I suppose, but I suspect it may still be enough to upset the wife. I tend to think this this type of path may be more obvious to you and I because we fall in the 'androgynous' camp. For those who transitioned, it may be that continuing to present as male is condemnation rather than compromise.

I'm a little surprised nobody else has responded to this thread yet.