[flamesabers]

Yes, being a lifelong bachelor very likely has a material influence on marriage. The way I see it, people change for better or for worse. I think sometimes marriages can be improved or saved with adequate effort. Other times, it may be more sensible and practical to end it and have both parties go on their own paths. Do all friendships or cohabiting relationships thrive and last for a lifetime? No. Why would it be any different for marriages? I don't think marriage vows guarantees a relationship will be happy and long lasting anymore than exercising regularly guarantees one will have a healthy and long life.

That is a very sad and cynical, and all too accurate assessment of modern society.
If you really feel that way Flame, then I think your decision for permanent bachelorhood is well made.

Bryony, I find that's a very interesting assessment of what I wrote. I think you're right about my decision for permanent bachelorhood.

Part of it I think is living in a society where divorce is very commonplace. Another factor is I very much value independence and individuality. While I regard the commitments I make very seriously, I strive to have a life of my own so to speak. I perceive this as a necessity to keep my life balanced and stable.

I think I understand where you're coming from and I do agree with parts of what you're saying. Dishonesty in a relationship is bound to be problematic. In regards to compromise, what if the author of the article wouldn't allow him to do what you're doing? Do you think then it would be better for the couple to end the marriage? When I reviewed the article, the author didn't strike me as being one who is open to compromise. I think that's a big reason why I didn't put any consideration as to compromising being one of her options.

Lastly, I don't see myself as sympathizing with the husband so much as not wanting to condemn the man before hearing his side of the story. When hearing people talk about their difficult or failed relationships, I find it much more common for people to place the blame solely on the other person. For all we know, she may have intentionally or unintentionally failed to mention aspects of the story that would change everything.