22-03-2015, 04:29 AM
I have been working on this off and on all day today, during which time two new responses have come out. So I figured I should share my thoughts before I fall further behind. I do play on adding more later and sharing from my particular point of view of my particular situation. Perhaps it will clear some things up, or perhaps it will just muddy the waters further. I guess we will have to wait and see.
I have debated for quite sometime on commenting in this thread, my last attempt took me to a dark and downward spiral. I was lucky in that someone just so happened to contact me at that precise moment and helped me to recover.
So here I go again. I'm sorry, but there are two sides to every argument and without knowing the other side of the story it isn't fair to cast any judgements one way or another. The world isn't black and white, as much as we would like it to be to make decisions and the like easier it just isn't.
For the most part many of us will try and paint ourselves in the best of light, perhaps to gain the greatest amount of support or sympathy. We also can tend to be very one sided and highly persuaded towards our our point of views and perspectives. Thus creating a tunnel vision of how we perceive the world and those around us.
Perhaps her side is the complete and whole truth, perhaps little bits and pieces were missed, we really don't know. Just seeing her side I can understand the heartache and trauma she is possibly going through, but it wouldn't be fair of me to say it is all his fault and she had no part in it.
I seriously doubt that EVERYONE is completely open and upfront about themselves with their significant other. If everything was 100% known, I would think it could make things a bit mundane at times. As I mentioned many people will try and present themselves in the best possible light and that goes for trying to attract a significant other as well Who wants to be with someone with issues right up front? No one would take the time to look beyond that. I am not saying it's right or wrong, I am saying people do what they do at the time in what they believe is right at the time. That does not necessarily make it right.
Love is supposed to be unconditional is it not? You are supposed to accept the good and the bad. What is it, in good times and in bad, sickness and health etc etc. For now I will share these thoughts so far, and I will share my story later on.
I have debated for quite sometime on commenting in this thread, my last attempt took me to a dark and downward spiral. I was lucky in that someone just so happened to contact me at that precise moment and helped me to recover.
So here I go again. I'm sorry, but there are two sides to every argument and without knowing the other side of the story it isn't fair to cast any judgements one way or another. The world isn't black and white, as much as we would like it to be to make decisions and the like easier it just isn't.
For the most part many of us will try and paint ourselves in the best of light, perhaps to gain the greatest amount of support or sympathy. We also can tend to be very one sided and highly persuaded towards our our point of views and perspectives. Thus creating a tunnel vision of how we perceive the world and those around us.
Perhaps her side is the complete and whole truth, perhaps little bits and pieces were missed, we really don't know. Just seeing her side I can understand the heartache and trauma she is possibly going through, but it wouldn't be fair of me to say it is all his fault and she had no part in it.
I seriously doubt that EVERYONE is completely open and upfront about themselves with their significant other. If everything was 100% known, I would think it could make things a bit mundane at times. As I mentioned many people will try and present themselves in the best possible light and that goes for trying to attract a significant other as well Who wants to be with someone with issues right up front? No one would take the time to look beyond that. I am not saying it's right or wrong, I am saying people do what they do at the time in what they believe is right at the time. That does not necessarily make it right.
Love is supposed to be unconditional is it not? You are supposed to accept the good and the bad. What is it, in good times and in bad, sickness and health etc etc. For now I will share these thoughts so far, and I will share my story later on.