29-04-2015, 08:43 PM
Hurricane,
I'm sorry your wife is responding the way she is. Everyone is free to respond however they wish and we can't control that. Sadly, in this day and age, few really know how to deal with a transgender coming out or how a spouse should respond. Most of the population has never had to even think about it so there is no example to follow for her and very few examples for you to emulate.
I don't want to sound like I don't care, I do. But the truth might be more helpful than any niceties I could offer. You are transgender. However, your marriage appears to have problems besides the trans stuff. I might be wrong about your marriage because I have very limited information but I think you should seek professional marriage counseling first, and deal with the TG stuff later if you can keep it in check long enough to repair the marriage. If you can't contain your TG, it seems obvious, your marriage will implode. What do you want more? A marriage, or freedom to explore your TG.
I'm sorry this might be tough to hear - it hasn't taken on the flavor I originally intended to convey but after re-reading your post, it seems like the hard truth you might need to hear. I didn't read the other posts so I hope I'm not being redundant and I certainly don't want to sound unsympathetic. TG is hard, as is marital strife. If you have both, you have a lot of very hard work to do. Good luck sister! We're on your side.
I'm sorry your wife is responding the way she is. Everyone is free to respond however they wish and we can't control that. Sadly, in this day and age, few really know how to deal with a transgender coming out or how a spouse should respond. Most of the population has never had to even think about it so there is no example to follow for her and very few examples for you to emulate.
I don't want to sound like I don't care, I do. But the truth might be more helpful than any niceties I could offer. You are transgender. However, your marriage appears to have problems besides the trans stuff. I might be wrong about your marriage because I have very limited information but I think you should seek professional marriage counseling first, and deal with the TG stuff later if you can keep it in check long enough to repair the marriage. If you can't contain your TG, it seems obvious, your marriage will implode. What do you want more? A marriage, or freedom to explore your TG.
I'm sorry this might be tough to hear - it hasn't taken on the flavor I originally intended to convey but after re-reading your post, it seems like the hard truth you might need to hear. I didn't read the other posts so I hope I'm not being redundant and I certainly don't want to sound unsympathetic. TG is hard, as is marital strife. If you have both, you have a lot of very hard work to do. Good luck sister! We're on your side.