[bryony]

Sorry byrony,

I gotta disagree with you here about withholding sexuality from your future spouse/loved one. Brain aromatase, which occurs throughout a male's lifetime can explain why some have no idea of future sexuality. So I don't buy we should've been upfront with our future mate. "Unless......such behavior/desires are truly known adhead of time, sure, then assign the blame/shame as it's been referred too. Adrenal deficiencies in both sexes explain a lot, so who's to say when GID surfaces, aromatase starts in fetal brain devoplment and w/secondary sexual determination. Hey lol, someone had to bring up science in right?, nothing personal

Action 1: deliberately withholding your sexuality from someone you desire in order to get them to fall in love with you marry you.

I hate to disagree Lotus, but by your very words, you are agreeing with me.

"deliberately" is exactly what I mean by "such behavior/desires are truly known adhead of time".

When I got married, way back in 1977, there was no internet as such, and I had to get by with what little information I could glean from text books. As far as I could make out, I had a transvestic fetish. It bothered me a lot that I seem unable to resist using it whenever I had an opportunity. I made sure my wife-to-be understood this well in advance of marriage proposal. I had no awareness of gender dysphoria then, but as time went by, as I learned more, I told her about it. We worked through it together. Thankfully, PM helped me to deal with it.

I can't say that the outcome would have been as happy if I had not told her in the first place.

I think the guilt at not having told a wife, for the short-term advantage of getting a relationship based primarily on sex procured through dishonesty, would probably cause a deep resentment, and the sort of person who would lie to gain such advantage would probably manage to persuade himself that the guilt is all the wife's fault for "not understanding" him. As always, its my opinion, but then so is everything we write here.

Those papers you refer to I guess indicate that GD can get worse over time. If so, then it does not surprise me - but that makes it all the more important to keep your loved ones in the loop, doesn't it?

B.