[Dianna1395]

Miranda, I wasn't suggesting that you were suggesting. Rather, that other posts have been quite fixated on this 'broken contract' idea. It may or may not have been anything intended or foreseen, but it's immaterial at the present time. All kinds of promises are broken within a marriage on all kinds of matters. It comes down to whether a divorce by one or the other spouse is desired or not.

Clara

Clara hits upon an interesting idea I hadn't thought of...
In a sense, how is this different from cancer?

Does getting cancer (say, of the uterus, or of the prostate) invalidate the marriage contract? Especially when it sounds like she's aiming for the "merit badges" of the modern woman (marriage, kid, career achievements, status, wealth, etc.)
For what it's worth, if you're not getting sex since the first kid.... If that kid is over 6 months, and that's being rather generous, well - SEX IS PART OF THE CONTRACT....
So, if she's denying you sex, she's violated the contract in the first place. And in that case, how can she hold YOU to the terms of the contract?

I'd also suggest you look into hiding assets and see a good divorce attorney. Get a consultation, as she may already have done so (noting the "poisoning the well" effect of telling nearby friends who see you socially.... I.E., she's making sure you'll have no social support network. So, take pre-emptive measures, this stuff ain't cheap, and divorce can be worse.)