[TibetanPrincess]

I'm not trying to get into an argument, and I think a lot of everyone posting in this thread and I hate to see such disagreement.

BUT

Gender is not black and white. It is a spectrum. There are individuals out there who feel male somedays and feel female somedays and they move fluidly between the two. There are people who use the pronouns "they", "them" rather than "he" or "she". You do not have to be one or the other, you just gotta be yourself. I domt find it right to judge the experiences of others... Especially when we live in a society where TG or gender fluid folks are not readily accepted... This is especially harder for older people who have had to deal with far more prejudices. It has to be so, so hard to "come out". I know a lot of people suppress it and try to force the urges away. It's not like people are waking up and saying "I'm just gonna lie to my SO about my gender identity for 20 years. That'll be a hoot!"

I mean I worked at a daycare where a father came unglued on his 2 year old for trying on a tutu while he was playing dress-up. Look at how many TG people commit suicide every year.

With that being said, were my husband to come home tomorrow and tell me he has been wishing to be a woman his entire life... I'm not sure how I would feel. I know I would love him through it and support him, but I'm not sure I could be in a relationship with him. Like gender, sexuality is not black or white either.

That's the thing, I don't believe you can lump TG with an inbetween. Your last statement is about a transgender situation. That's different than an in between disclosing his desire to express in a fem manner by growing breasts and or curves ,yet claiming he wants to keep his manhood functions and hes straight, wanting and pleading for you to accept?

Yes I'd support and love him no matter what if he were a TG and yes, I'd likely divorce. But if he's straight and wants to be fem, I couldn't tolerate it. "Id tell him I'm done , you've waisted my time."