Ya know, I wasn't going to touch this thread but oh well ... here it goes. I agree with TP. I don't even think it really boils down to femininity or being masculine. It all comes down to who you chose to represent yourself as and what you allowed others believe using deception under the guise of self protection. At the end of it all it is still lying and yes; omission of the truth is still lying. You lied to yourself, you lied to your mate, and now after it's eating away at your conscious you just finally come clean. I think we all hit this point at some time but no one really has to support anything.
This is why I have chosen to remain single since I have been 22 years old (yup, that is 15 years and counting now; I don't even remember what it feels like to have intimacy) because I could not live with myself knowing I was running a lie. And no one deserves that. I also find it kinda odd that someone would actually want to be in between as it was basically forced on me through genetics and I absolutely hate it . You are never good enough for either side destined to be alone. You try to be one of the guys and your basically branded a homosexual from the start because of how you act. You try to be one the girls and your some pervert. I'm sure there are some people that are accepting but I am sure it is a small number.
Just put yourself in their position. How would you feel if you had a what you thought was normal marriage for 20 years or whatever and this new information came about. It would make you question your entire marriage, your being, and god knows what else. Basically having to process something in one day that you have had years to process.
Just be honest about who you are and what you want. Don't expect everyone to accept it because they wont. The world is a very cold and cruel place and has never been fair. I suggest we all get real used to it.
This is why I have chosen to remain single since I have been 22 years old (yup, that is 15 years and counting now; I don't even remember what it feels like to have intimacy) because I could not live with myself knowing I was running a lie. And no one deserves that. I also find it kinda odd that someone would actually want to be in between as it was basically forced on me through genetics and I absolutely hate it . You are never good enough for either side destined to be alone. You try to be one of the guys and your basically branded a homosexual from the start because of how you act. You try to be one the girls and your some pervert. I'm sure there are some people that are accepting but I am sure it is a small number.
Just put yourself in their position. How would you feel if you had a what you thought was normal marriage for 20 years or whatever and this new information came about. It would make you question your entire marriage, your being, and god knows what else. Basically having to process something in one day that you have had years to process.
Just be honest about who you are and what you want. Don't expect everyone to accept it because they wont. The world is a very cold and cruel place and has never been fair. I suggest we all get real used to it.