Quote:(sssssssssssssssssssssss fizzle) Nah, not going to explode.
For me, this is not about political correctness, but just how I feel about a phrase. A bit past the half-century mark, I don't think I still qualify for young, but then you are only as young as you feel.
I have grown up kids and I have no problem with the term, my children.
But do I want my daughter to become "a wife". I want her to find a life partner under terms in which they cherish each other equally, support each other, and do their best for each other such that they both flourish.
Something subtle in my mind has attached it to my internal definition of wife which does not mesh with that ideal.
Oh ok, not as young as I thought (those dang avatars!)
Well, I like to think of marriage as two people giving themselves to each other. I have and extremely romantic notion of love and sex and commitment.
I found it quite touching the first time I heard "my" wife refer to me in a telephone conversation as "her" husband.
I suppose it is all wrapped up in semantics and symbolism. Even in the wedding service vows it says "do you take this man/woman as your lawfully wedded wife/husband" (or at least here in the UK) with all the possession that that implies.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_vows
We had a civil (non-religious) ceremony, and the phrase is still possessive towards one another. Personally, I'm happy to be possessed. It's kind of cozy.
B.
PS have you asked your wife what she thinks about it? Sorry if you already mentioned it elsewhere.