[bryony]

I think you missed it. Here's an example scenario, a straight male being in a hetero relationship, not disclosing all of who he is. Then when he secretly goes on his feminizing journey and later comes out to his SO, hoping they will accept it. Its selfish behavior and entitlement, that is what I'm talking about.

I certainly missed everything else, but that particular example is one of my bugbears too. I see it as a direct parallel to the kind of guy who dumps his wife and gets another. In both cases, the wife supplies an urgent and pressing need which, when satisfied is no longer required. In the case of the dishonest/deceitful late stage GD, the wife is replaced not with another woman, but the woman within.

This of course is distinct from the GD who does not have any idea what is wrong at the time of proposal and therefore was not hiding his problem but was simply unaware of it.

In my case, when I got married in the late 1970s, the kind of compulsive cross-dressing that I suffered (yes suffered) from was called "transvestic fetishism". This I duly confessed to my wife-to-be before we got married. It turned out to be incorrect... but we cope.

To return to your example, I think such people are, to an extent, sociopathic in that they only relate to others inasmuch as what utility they present to them - and this of course applies to the men who dump their older wives for a newer model.

B.