[bryony]

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Oh ok, not as young as I thought (those dang avatars!)

Well, I like to think of marriage as two people giving themselves to each other. I have and extremely romantic notion of love and sex and commitment.

I found it quite touching the first time I heard "my" wife refer to me in a telephone conversation as "her" husband.

I suppose it is all wrapped up in semantics and symbolism. Even in the wedding service vows it says "do you take this man/woman as your lawfully wedded wife/husband" (or at least here in the UK) with all the possession that that implies.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_vows

We had a civil (non-religious) ceremony, and the phrase is still possessive towards one another. Personally, I'm happy to be possessed. It's kind of cozy.

B.

PS have you asked your wife what she thinks about it? Sorry if you already mentioned it elsewhere.

My avatar is a 3d cgi model that I dressed and rendered. I should age her up a bit I guess.

The breast size, well that is aspirational so I am not going to shrink it down to reality.

As an IT nerd who tends to take things quite literally at times, there are some nuances of romantic that are lost on me, but commitment is very serious.

We had a civil ceremony as well, but had custom vows. Oh and there was a stuff up during the ceremony, so technically I was the only one who vowed anything.

I have not asked her that question yet. I should.

I see two birds with one stone here... if she feels the same way about the giving of oneself to the other as I do, you could always have a romantic weekend where you re-take your vows, possibly based on the more traditional versions. (That way you would both get to take them this time!)

Just a thought.

B.