[GoneGirl]

I think some are saying that they didn't know about their gender issues at all before getting married. I mean it's hard for me to imagine not knowing by then personally, but to each their own!

I didn't know, Sarah.

Oh, I knew that something wasn't right, but I couldn't, or wouldn't, put a label on it. I didn't know anything about transgenderism. It's called denial.

I think cross gender identity can live in one's subconscious and cause problems that are not consciously understood. That was me.

When it finally bubbled to my conscious mind, and I began to understand what it means to be transgender, I started to connect the dots from my past, and a pattern emerged that unmistakably pointed to my being TG.

Gender confusion is a complex and difficult to resolve condition which has only very recently been afford any serious attention. I think we have to be very careful about accusing people of deception and malintent for entering into a marriage not informing their partner of gender issues which years ago were not even spoken of.

Clara